One of the fans of this blog asked me to touch on the subject of Backstabbing friends I have really only had one friend turn her back on me and all it took was that for me to let my guard go up. This is a very touchy subject because you have the person who has been hurt and the person who is causing the hurt. I don't know about you fellas but woman are cold hearted when it comes to hurting another woman's feelings we will pull out all the stops! Men tend to either not talk to the person ever again or fight. I guess this is where men and woman are so different. For woman if you have been friends with this person for a long time than it is alot harder to just stopping to this person. You guys most likely have the same friends and hang out at the same places. But you have to ask yourself what makes this woman that you have been friends with just flip on you and turn her back? There is alot of answers to this but I know the main one is JEALOUSY...yep the green eyed monster! This is where you need to learn to cut yourself from the drama and move on. If your so called friend is jealous over something positive you have done in your life than you need to cut the negative from your life. when you step up in life and it becomes a positive thing so keeping the negative around you is a oxymoron. Sometimes in life you have to take the bad with the good but not when it comes to this. Anyone that isn't happy for your success needs to keep it pushing. Don't allow yourself to be stressed over this person. Ladies if you find yourself jealous of your friends than that means you need to work on some self improvement. Use this as motivation to strive yourself. Everyone has come across a back stabber in there day but how you choose to deal with it is totally up to you....good luck with dealing with your backstabber but remember people can only put you through what you allow them to out you through...Own your life and move on!
~ A competent and self-confident person is incapable of jealousy in anything. Jealousy is invariably a symptom of neurotic insecurity. ~
-Robert A. Heinlein
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I had a close friend and when we grew up she decided that men were more important, and she always ended up getting hurt or talked about by these men. I tried talking to her and trying to put her up on game, and she wouldn't listen. We would go to parties and she would try to get me to leave with her and some guy she just met. Hey I don't get down like that and because of that she told me oh you think your too good, you stuck up bitch. Just because I wouldn't go home with her and this stranger. When I met my husband and we started hanging out together she talked about me to everyone she could find becaue she was jealous I found a good man, jealous that i kept my legs closed and she opened them for evey man that smiled at her. it hurt me so bad to the point I had to stop talking to her. What hurt the most is that I was always there for her, I had to pull her out of many dangerous situations due to her being drunk with men. I told her mother before she passed away from breast cancer that I would watch out and take care of her. I broke that promise to her mother because I couldn't do it anymore I couldn't stop her from sleeping around, getting drunk and instead of her seeing I loved her and cared about her all she saw was that I was stuck up and a bitch and thought I was better than her. All I wanted to do was show her that she doesn't need to do those things to get a good man or have friends. But she was so blinded by the hatred for herself that she couldn't see that and till this day I think about that promise I made to her mom that I didn't keep. I hope where ever she is, she knows that everything I did and tried to do for her I did out of love. Why do women hate on women who want nothing but the best for them and want to teach them respect for themselves, it's like women these days have no respect for themselves, their bodies or anyone else, and then they get mad at you because someone calls them a whore and not you. It's like fix your shit and keep your legs closed and maybe you wouldn't be labeled as a whore. That is why I have no female friends, you can't trust them because they always want what you have instead of fixing their flaws so they can have what you have. Except for you Les, why do you have to be so far away, there are times I really need you and I know that you'd be there no question and no back stabbing and I will forever love and respect you for that.
ReplyDeleteI dont friends i cant trust them. I had 2 really close friends growing. from the sandbox to we got 18yr. we all choose different paths for our lives. but it wasnt suppose to break us up. 1 got pregnant prom night, the other starting whoring, and i went to college! Within 6 mos of graduating high school we were no longer friends. I havent talk to these in almost 10yrs. so the hell with friends!
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