Okay ladies how many of you have grandmothers that have been married for 50 years? Do you ever wonder why marriages use to last that long? I know I did but i think i might have figured it out. I was brought up to be a strong don't need no man kind of girl. My mom always told me that I don't need to clean up after a man or cook for a man, I'm not saying this was not the right way to raise me because i think i turned out great. .lol but it wasn't until i went to my aunts house that i saw a woman chillen, having a conversation with me until her man walked in.....girl she got up kissed her man helped him take off his shoes offered him a drink i was sitting there with my mouth open....what was she doing catering to this man's every need. I mean she was on point. I was like 22 and was brought up that a woman who does all of that was some kind of pushover. So I asked my aunt do you do that everyday and she said yea why i told her i cant do all that for no man she said well where is your man I said I don't have one she said well shit I see why..... At that moment I said she was just clownin until it clicked I didn't have a man if i did get a man we would break up in a few months a lot short of 50 years. I had to really sit and think what is wrong with pampering your man treating him like a king? ABSOLUTLY NOTHING....it takes giving some to get some and the more you give the more you get. I'm not saying give this treatment to your man in hopes of getting some back but when he is a good man and he deserves it. You will get so much joy out of making him happy. To see him smile and know that you treat this man like no other is so self rewarding. Woman back in the day were not afraid to show there man how they felt they would cook all day for there man iron there clothes and let them watch there sports without no problems. And would be married for decades! I don't know about you ladies but I see something in this scenario that makes me want to take the more humble approach of taking care of my man. We can still have a voice and a backbone and show our man that we love them and we will take care of them. I say this because there is something I had to learn the hard way because i was never told this.... BUT WHAT YOU DON'T DO FOR YOUR MAN THERE ARE A HUNDRED OTHER WOMAN THAT WILL..
Treat your men right ladies the right ones are so worth it!
- unparagoned woman
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I for one totally agree with you Lesley. I was raised to take care of my husband. And I was raised that he should do the same for me. My father cooked, cleaned, did the sewing,did dishes, etc. He was a jack of all trades. SO when I got older I always applied that to my relationships, the ones that did not last these men were undeserving of me I have high expectations and they did not meet them. When me and my husband met it was love at first sight, I met my husband when I was 18 he was so amazed I could cook that i kept a clean house. When he started spending more time he would tell me no one has ever done these things for me. I cook, I clean,massage his body, rub his feet, run his baths, give him pedicures, etc. You can't be afraid to do these things for your man, it doesn't make you soft it makes you a real woman. See with me and my husband it's not about the sex, well sometimes. But it is more about the communication and showing eachother how much we love eachother, not by sex but by the things we do for eachother without expecting a thank you. If you want to last you do everything to make sure you take care of your man, make sure he does the same for you, most of all when you get older the sex will die, that is why you always have to keep strong communication between eachother, be able to talk. Communication, plus love, plus be willing to go beyond what others say you should do to keep your man/woman because 9 times out of 10 people saying you shouldn't do this or that are single or are getting cheated on Period. Nice Lesley Love the article
ReplyDeleteYOU LIKE IT BECAUSE YOU ARE STRONG AND YOU COME FROM THE SAME STATE OF MIND AS ME.
ReplyDeleteWow i live this. I have dated a lot , my work always came first. When i met my soon to be husband. I had a nasty dnt give a FREAK ATTITUDE! We broke up 4months later. It was because of my I dont care attitude. I wouldnt let my guard down. But after some time apart. I checked my attitude at the door. I love catering to man. when he comes home from work in the moring. I make him breakfast, i rub is back at night, run bath water, and hell i even give him a pdeicure! so ladies what you won't do..Someone else will!
ReplyDeleteI understand some of your points ladies. Really I do. But for me I have seen enough of catering to a man to last me a lifetime. Watching my mother cater to her men and losing herself in the process. No thanks. I can't go there in many ways. I love my husband very much. But there has always been a part of me that will not do to much....
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