Extreme Baggage

Ever met someone who swept you off your feet? They wine and dine you and you are in relationship bliss...... Then all of a sudden they slowly but surely start to not act the same. They stop dining and all you hear is whining?????You have been HAD! Not exactly... Most relationship have this problem it is caused by one problem some has gotten comfortable. I don't mean like gaining weight or not wearing heels too cook but i mean comfortable like they think they have you and your not going anywhere. Then you start to realize that they are faulting you and blaming you for shit you haven't even done. They have brought in the excess baggage. Someone has done this person wrong in the past and now they have gotten it in there head that everyone is like that. So what do you do? Well i think first you need to evaluate the level of baggage. If the person thinks that you might leave them if they piss you off so they walk around eggshell's around you this is most likely a workable issue. All you need to do is show them that your not going anywhere by telling them the reasons you are with them. This Will install confidence in them and help to understand there uniqueness. Then there is the situations where this person is so gone that they want to control your every move. They want you to not have a life without them and if you do they make it seem like it is your fault that you need some space. What do you do in this position? This scenario is all about prevention. If you start to see traits of this early in the relationship then you need to immediately nip this in the bud. Let the person know that you are who you are and either they can roll with you the way you are or roll on. Now there are times when you are so blinded by love that you don't see this coming along and next thing you know all your friends are gone and you notice your always together. So what do you do now? I say speak up start by telling the person how you feel if they are not listening to this then you need to stay strong and DO YOU by this I mean go out anyway. If they are still giving you a hard time then you might want to consider moving on. Everyone has baggage just some can look at there baggage as lessons learned and use there past as stepping stones. Others cant get over the hurt they endured in the past. So this is to everyone not just my ladies, if you find yourself falling for someone who has more baggage than LAX you might want to think long and hard before become there bellhop.