Space and Trust

Does absence make the heart grow fonder? I believe in most cases yes but others will beg to differ. I think that in relationships it is so important for each member to have the own life. Some people think that a couple needs to have one life together. I have been in relationship where I have had it both ways. One was to the extreme i never saw him. He was always gone and it made me wonder what he was doing all the time. So my insecurities led me to cheat because i didn't want to be the faithful one why he was out running around. Needless to say this ended fast because there was no trust for many valid reasons. Then i have been in the opposite extreme where this man acted like i couldn't be away from him for longer than 5 minutes and he was sending out a search party to look for me. The most frustrating thing abut this was how do you plan things or surprises if the person is always around. He would make me feel like i wasn't being a good girlfriend because i wanted a girls night out once every couple of months. We as woman need our space whether we spend it alone or with our girlfriends. Some woman are so clingy because they were cheated on or think everyone wants their man. I say if you cant let you man go to the store without feeling like he was going to met him a booty call than he is most likely not for you. I mean who wants to be in the business of keeping a man that don't want to be kept. You have to think if you were in a relationship like this which way is the right way to be? I say the perfect answer is a level medium. Know when to back up ladies and let your man breathe trust that he loves you and wouldn't do anything to hurt you. If he does you know what to do. But a little bit of trust goes along way with a man. you will build a strong healthy relationship that will last. So some absence does make the heart grow fonder but trust and respect makes the heart love longer...