DONT LET REAL LOVE PASS YOU BY...

you have been together for a while and you love them and enjoy them but your just not sure if you should just say forget it and settle all the way down. the main reason your holding out is because you are saving yourself for your soul mate.....Its a common situation. No one ones to settle mostly because they feel like the Mr./Ms right will come and go....But lets stop and think sometimes the opposite happens you have Mr./Ms. right right under your nose and you let them go. So how do you know if you have them right in front of your face?? This is a feeling deep down in your soul something you cant turn off. You wake up and this person is on your mind you go to bed with this person on your mind. You find yourself worrying about this person more than you think about yourself. Chances are you have what you are looking for right in front of your face. As humans we are always looking to come up we wanna show up and then show out. So we tend to go after the wrong things Main thing being looks. Ladies have you ever met a man that was so beautiful on the eye but ugly on the heart??? I know I have. As strong women we need to move past the Okie Doke and go after the real. Not the oh he is so fine or oh he has a nice car.....Lets wake up and realize that as we work on us all of those material things don't mean shit in the long run. Having a real spouse someone to grow old with someone to have and to hold is the real meaning or a relationship and love.If you are with someone and they deep down make you feel like you are number one on there list open your eyes and realize in what you got. Invest in yourself and invest in them. Looks can fade and money can get spent but Everlasting love will be around forever! As always open your minds and your hearts will follow.....

Letting Go!!!

Nothing is harder about love then losing it or letting it go. Losing love is hard because when you lose love its against your will. This can leave you feeling powerless. There are also times in love when you have to let it go. To me this is even more difficult than losing love. To let go and learn to move on takes will power and a lot of tears but is sometimes necessary to become a stronger person later in life. Lets admit not all love is good for everyone. Let me explain. In order to have a functioning loving relationship it needs to be a two way street. Meaning both parties love the same amount. Sometimes in relationships or certain situations you might find yourself loving the other person more than they love you. As heartbreaking this can be it does happen. This is where Heartbreak starts. Not everyone loves the same way and this is very important to know also. I say if you find yourself always upset behind this person maybe it just isn't worth it. When do you cross the line of being supportive and just being taken advantage of. Someone taking advantage of your love is one of the most painful experiences you will ever experience. Don't let anyone get so far into your head that they make you feel like your not worthy or like nothing you do isn't good enough. When is it time to pull your love away??? when you feel like you are changing everything about yourself or when you just feel the love fade away. If this does happen to you or ever happened use it to your advantage and learn and grow from it. NO ONE IS WORTH GIVING UP YOUR HAPPINESS FOR...NO ONE!!!

Should I kick em' to the curb???????????

I get a lot of request from the ladies wanting to know when should cut their men off. This could answered in alot of different ways. I believe everyone is going to make a mistake or two and don't deserve to just be kicked to curb if they cut up a little. If your man is cheating on you does he deserve another chance? I think is also a case by case situation. If you and your man have not had sex for months because you just don't feel like it and then you find out he slept with someone else but was really sorry for it and admitted it...He might deserve another chance. I mean come on everyone has needs. If you and your man seem happy and he is just out in the streets and just wont stop cheating then you need to kick his sorry ass to the curb. Now if your man doesn't make enough money and you make more then him but he treats you good and works hard should you dump him...My opinion is absolutely not. I know alot of you are reading this right now saying who would leave a hard working man that doesn't make more money than them right...You guys would be surprised on some woman thinking.But that's a different topic. Ladies the answer to this is follow your brain and your heart. Equally. When it comes to love you must use both. Sometimes your heart will lead you one way and your brain will lead you another. Use the caring of your heart and the smarts of your brain to make tough decision in your relationship. With the balance of the two you cant go wrong.

Love at first sight...Is it possible?

Do you believe in love at first sight or lust at first sight? Do you know the difference? Sometimes people get the two mixed up and that could be catastrophic.. I say this because you will build up yourself to think you really are in love with this person when it is not love its lust. The difference between the two is this. Love is when you know you don't want to be with anyone else when you put their needs and want before your own. Lust is when all you can think about is sleeping with this person by sleeping I mean sex... Love is one of those things that could come all of a sudden or creep up on you when you least expect it. Either way it usually comes and hits you hard. I do believe in love at first sight or maybe its just wishful thinking. You know...... when you look at someone and everything starts to flash before you. You can actually see yourself marrying this person and starting a family with. Growing old with this person. I have felt like this. I remember it like it just happened as soon as I saw him I wanted to spend the rest of my life with him. I still think my assumption was right because I still love him now. I cant say this happens to everyone and some will disagree with me saying that it takes time to fall in love and I could see most feeling like this if you have never encountered a situation like this before. Whether you fall in love after six months or six minutes depends on you. All I know is the true meaning of love is to love not to be loved in return. Someone told me this and it will stick with me for the rest of my life. This is how you know if it lust or love. Lust is something we need in return. Love is a feeling deep in your heart and the true gift of it is feeling it for someone else.

Just do you!

Have you ever been so head over heels for someone and just as it seems they are letting you in there world you realized they have pushed you away even further than before? This happens more than we would like to admit it. Is it that they have someone already? Or are they waiting for someone better to come along? Whatever you may think is the reason one thing might be the obvious reason. Maybe just maybe they don't like you. This is one of those things that isn't easy. Especially for us woman. The fact that you are doing everything in your power to show this person love and attention doesn't really matter. In some cases they may even be using you...Okay in most cases. If you are seeing someone and they are always asking you for money or for favors there using you. To me this is just plain ole mean! And for those who do this Karma is a bitch it will come back. But sometimes all we need is a reality check. Some cant figure this out alone so I will list some examples that might help you figure this out. First if you call and they don't answer EVER this is a sign that there not into you. Second if you haven't met anyone in there family then there not into you. And last but not least when you try and talk about you and them getting serious and they either change the subject or find a way to get away whether it be off the phone or leave the room then they are just not into you. These are some of my examples but there are lots. And each cases varies. I say go with you heart if this person is showing you signs like there is a chance for the two of you to be together only when they want something then its time to move on and do for yourself. They will not start loving you they will keep using you. This might be hard from most to come to grips with but its just real talk....Just do you!

The Highs and Lows or Love...

Ladies have you ever notice that when you play the game the way you intended everything goes as planned but then you start to switch it up, feelings start to get involved and next thing you know shit is all messed up! wonder what I'm talking about? I'm talking about that person that you intended to be "just hanging out with" then you start to notice that you are falling for them. Falling so hard and so fast that you can barely keep up. This person has the ability to make you feel so high. But the only problem with high is you have to take the lows with that high. Those lows can feel like no other. Those lows are the worse ever because if you haven't built the connection with this person you cant come back from most of these lows. This ties into my last blog of casually dating someone or getting played. When you are seeing someone whether it be for companionship or just sex when do you know when to call it quits. I say when feelings start to get involved and you realize that its going no where. In this situation the only one who gets hurt is you. You put your feelings out there and now there susceptible to getting hurt. When you are not in a relationship with this person some feelings and thoughts should be kept to yourself. Only when you feel like the other person is feeling you just as much as your feeling them then you speak up. Somethings are not worth messing up. Leave well enough alone but don't allow yourself to be broken down in the process.

Casually Dating....

So your casually dating and find out that he has a few girls he is dating or even worse a girlfriend....What Now? Your feelings may be involved but its time to do some evaluations on them. I know easier said than done but what choice do you have? Okay first things first, the first situation is your casually dating and your catching feelings as much i want to say try not to catch them shit happens. So he tells you that he is seeing other girls. I say go with your instinct's on this one if you feel okay with it than roll with it but if it makes you feel uncomfortable than end it. even though Casually dating means not obligations no strings no ties. You still have the option to end the fling or whatever you choose to call it whenever you like. Now for situation #2 your casually dating and you find out that he has a girlfriend but he still wants to see you...What do you do? I say lay low if you want to try and stay friends that is something that will almost every time fail, because their is temptation there. This is no different than meeting a man that is in a relationship. If you were just hanging out with this guy and he chooses someone else then he probably wasn't looking at you as girlfriend material. This is only obvious because he would have picked you. These are my opinions and i know a lot of this is easier said than done. Dating is one of the hardest things you will ever have to do but it is also a lot of fun. Just try and keep you eyes on whats really important and that's making yourself happy..